My anticipation for breastfeeding is quite high. I am fifteen weeks pregnant and just rearing to go! I was having a discussion with my husband the other day and he was worried about how long my mother would be staying with us when the baby was born. He is worried his opportunities to bond with the baby will be minimized if my mom is here. It made me think about all the time that I will be breastfeeding. Will he feel left out? How can I include him in the experience itself?
I have no doubt that he will bond with the baby in lots of ways; holding, washing, changing, rocking, and loving. The most obvious way I can see to include him in the breastfeeding experience is to encourage and acknowledge his support of me, and I don’t just mean get him to bring me food and water and tell me I’m doing a great job (though that would be nice:)) The emotional support I will need from him will be essential to our breastfeeding success. Humor, love and different perspectives make our relationship strong and I hope these traits will see us triumphant in parenting as well.
I admit that I am quite excited to have a special bond with my baby. A mother/child bond that is unique only to me, but I can’t think of anything better than seeing my husband have his own bond with our children. I can imagine him out on the driveway with the basketball or helping with math homework, but it’s hard for me to see him running home from work to change diapers!
How did you include the father in the early days of your child’s life?
Here are some interesting and more professional views on the subject:
Breastfeeding: How Dad Can Help